You’ve probably heard that blondes have more fun. I’m here to prove you wrong.
I write this as I’m rounding off a hectic weekend. It’s 23:25 but there is just so much I need to say. This weekend filled me with the nostalgia of being an undergrad. Watching people trying to fit in whilst trying to make it look like they weren’t trying.
Big social events can be an exciting experience for most people, and an anxiety packed event for others. I’m here to show how I manoeuvre my way in large social events whilst being a bomb-ass introvert.
Firstly, I really despise the baggage the word ‘introvert’ carries.
People often assume that introverts don’t like people, or aren’t powerful or interesting. I disagree, and this weekend has reminded me how I manipulate my quiet confidence in a world of extroverts.
The moral of this blog will be to always be true to yourself. Whether people are telling you that you are too loud, or too quiet, stay true. My mellow, easy-going nature, something others would tell me was a flaw, has become my biggest strength. Here are a few of the realities I had to face for this to happen.
Not everyone will get me
Like I mentioned earlier, not everyone will understand how you are the way that you are. Some will interpret your reservedness as being stuck-up, anti-social, weird or just plain. It’s funny because I wouldn’t describe myself as any of those things. In my quietness I like to take in my surroundings, get to know the mood of the room and use my words wisely. My confidence can be found in the way that I carry myself, the kindness in my actions, and the intelligence in my words rather than the volume of my voice.
I can be reserved, but I’m not shy.
Shyness has more to do with anxiety and discomfort in social situations, whereas I’m someone who feels quite comfortable around people. And although I do value my alone time more than others may, that also doesn’t mean that I hate company.
In other words, don’t be scared to redefine your introversion. There are a lot of negative labels that the word carries, but I refuse to take notice of them. It doesn’t worry me that everyone won’t get that, as there will always be people who do.
Not everyone will like me
This is another factor that I’ve had to come to terms with. It’s unpleasant yet true. Where extroverted people can depend on their charm and charisma to work the room, more introverted people may struggle.
Relationships are definitely a matter of quality over quantity for someone like me.
I enjoy listening to others talk more than I do speaking, and this actually means that the friends I do have, I know very intimately and have great connections with. Knowing that not everyone will like me means that I always work at building relationships, not taking it personally if they don’t work out.
The great thing about owning your introversion is being able to use it in your favour. It’s a wonderful feeling knowing that your friends feel comfortable sharing their personal issues with you; showing the maturity of trust and confidence between you. It’s easy to get overwhelmed thinking about being the coolest or most popular person in the room. Instead focus on being genuinely you, and the people who value that honesty will gravitate that that realness effortlessly.
I’m in control of my fun
As a self-proclaimed introvert, I’m often made to feel as though I don’t enjoy having fun. I believe that ‘having fun’ can take multiple forms, and there are times that sitting in the audience is the most enjoyable place to be. Basically, I’ve given up trying to have fun in other people’s terms.
Contrary to popular belief, introverts make great socialisers, public speakers and all-round bubbly individuals. But if having a deep, meaningful conversation on the sofa is more appealing to you than being front and centre of the dancefloor, then by all means, do you.
Do the activities that make you feel genuinely happy and fulfilled, after all that’s what really matters. Introverts, extroverts and everyone in between holds their own unique worth to society. Embrace and accept your own uniqueness, and build the life you want to live.
Be confident in your quietness.